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The Danger of Unspoken Expectations

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The Danger of Unspoken Expectations | Edwin Ogie Library The Danger of Unspoken Expectations Sometimes, the disappointment is not caused by a broken promise, but by an expectation that was never discussed. By Edwin Ogie • Edwin Ogie Library 📘 BUILD BEFORE YOU PROMISE Paperback: $13.99 GET YOUR COPY ON AMAZON → A woman expects her partner to remember important dates without being reminded. A man believes his partner should understand that working late means he needs quiet when he gets home. Neither person explains these expectations clearly. At first, the misunderstandings seem small. Then one person feels neglected, while the other feels unfairly criticised. Eventually, they are no longer arguing about the original situation. They are arguing about what each person believes a loving partner should already know. This is one of the quiet difficultie...
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When Sorry Is Not Enough | Edwin Ogie Library

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When Sorry Is Not Enough | Edwin Ogie Library When Sorry Is Not Enough An apology can open the door to repair, but what happens after the words are spoken? By Edwin Ogie • Edwin Ogie Library 📘 GET BUILD BEFORE YOU PROMISE ON AMAZON • $12.99 “I'm sorry.” Sometimes those two words are exactly what a relationship needs to hear. But there are moments when an apology is only the beginning. A person may say sorry sincerely, yet the same behaviour keeps returning. After a while, the injured partner stops asking whether the apology sounds genuine and starts asking a harder question: “Will anything actually change?” An Apology Is Not the Same as Repair Saying sorry acknowledges that something went wrong. Repair goes further. It asks what must be done differently so that the same wound is not repeatedly reopened. Imagine a husband repeatedly dism...
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When Love Becomes a Scorecard | Edwin Ogie Library

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When Love Becomes a Scorecard | Edwin Ogie Library When Love Becomes a Scorecard Keeping track of who gives more can quietly turn a relationship into a competition. By Edwin Ogie • Edwin Ogie Library 📘 READ BUILD BEFORE YOU PROMISE ON AMAZON Some relationships do not fall apart because there is no love. They become difficult because both people begin keeping records. One person remembers how many times they paid the bills. Another remembers how often they sacrificed their plans. One says, “I am always the one making the effort.” The other responds, “And what about everything I have done?” Before long, the relationship stops feeling like a partnership. It begins to feel like an account book. The Hidden Danger of Keeping Score Healthy relationships require responsibility from both people, but responsibility is not the same thing as keeping a running tota...
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WHEN ONE PARTNER IS GROWING AND THE OTHER IS STANDING STILL

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RELATIONSHIP & PERSONAL GROWTH When One Partner Is Growing and the Other Is Standing Still What happens when two people who once seemed perfectly aligned begin moving in different directions? Growth sounds like something every couple should celebrate. And it is. When your partner learns something new, becomes more disciplined, develops a healthier mindset or begins pursuing a meaningful goal, you would expect the relationship to benefit. But personal growth can also expose differences that were previously easy to ignore. One partner may become more intentional while the other remains comfortable with old habits. One may want to build a business while the other prefers security. One may become interested in learning, faith, fitness or personal development while the other sees little reason to change. Over time, the difference can create emot...
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THE RELATIONSHIP AFTER THE CHILDREN ARRIVE

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RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY LIFE The Relationship After the Children Arrive Having children can bring tremendous joy into a home, but it can also change the relationship between two people in ways they did not expect. Before the children arrived, it was often just the two of you. You had time to talk, make plans, go out, rest and enjoy one another's company. Then a child arrives, and suddenly the rhythm of life changes. Sleep becomes interrupted. Expenses increase. Responsibilities multiply. One person may feel exhausted while the other feels overlooked. Romantic conversations can be replaced by conversations about feeding, school, bills, work and household responsibilities. The children may become the centre of the home, but that does not mean the marriage should quietly move to the margins. "Children need loving parents, but parents al...
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