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YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE AND STILL NEED BOUNDARIES

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RELATIONSHIPS • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES • SELF-WORTH You Can Love Someone and Still Need Boundaries Loving someone does not mean giving them unlimited access to your time, emotions, energy, privacy, or personal space. By Edwin Ogie • Edwin Ogie Library Love is often described as sacrifice, patience, forgiveness and selflessness. These qualities can be beautiful, but without healthy boundaries, they can also become a pathway to exhaustion and resentment. Many people believe that setting boundaries means you do not truly love someone. They think that if you love your partner, friend, family member or even colleague, you should always be available. You should always forgive. You should always help. You should always understand. But love without boundaries can become unhealthy. “A boundary is not a wall aga...

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN BEING LOVED AND BEING NEEDED

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RELATIONSHIPS • SELF-WORTH • EMOTIONAL MATURITY The Difference Between Being Loved and Being Needed Being important to someone is not always the same as being genuinely loved. Understanding the difference can change the way you see yourself and your relationships. By Edwin Ogie • Edwin Ogie Library There is something deeply satisfying about knowing that someone needs you. It makes you feel important. It makes you feel valuable. It can even make you feel secure in a relationship. But there is a question many people never stop to ask: “Am I loved for who I am, or am I valued mainly for what I provide?” The difference may appear small, but it can have a profound effect on your emotional well-being. Someone can need your money, your attention, your protection, your connections, your emotional support or your ability to solve problems. None of...

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE • PERSONAL GROWTH

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE • PERSONAL GROWTH 7 Things Emotionally Mature People Do Differently Emotional maturity is not about never getting angry, hurt, disappointed, or frustrated. It is about learning what to do with those emotions. By Edwin Ogie • Edwin Ogie Library Growing older is automatic. Growing emotionally is not. A person can be forty years old and still respond to conflict with the emotional habits of a teenager. Another person can experience pain, rejection, disappointment and criticism and gradually learn how to handle those experiences with wisdom. That is the difference between simply getting older and becoming emotionally mature. “Emotional maturity is not the absence of strong emotions. It is the ability to respond to those emotions wisely.” What Is Emotional Maturity? Emotional maturity is the ability to recognise your ...