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3-Phase Servo AVR (AC Voltage Stabilizer) — Troubleshooting, Repair & Maintenance By Edwin Ogie • December 18, 2025 • -- AC Voltage Stabilizer — 3-phase servo control type (example from user photo) A practical, step-by-step guide to diagnose, repair and maintain 3-phase servo Automatic Voltage Regulators (AVR) / servo voltage stabilizers. Written in simple terms for technicians and maintenance teams working with generators, UPS rooms and factories. Includes videos, spare-parts list, safety checklist, troubleshooting flow and links to internal/external resources. Contents Why this matters In environments with unstable mains (frequent sags, surges or phase imbalance) a servo AVR protects sensitive equipment by continuously adjusting an autotransformer tap via a small servo motor. A well-maintained stabilizer saves equipment, reduces downtime and prevents costly damage. ...

Self-Esteem Recovery After Emotional Neglect or Gaslighting

💡 Self-Esteem Recovery After Emotional Neglect or Gaslighting

Format: Personal Experiment Article + Resources | By: Edwin Ogie Library | Visit Edwin Ogie Library

Hook: “Healing your self-worth isn’t about forgetting what happened — it’s about remembering who you truly are.”

Emotional neglect and gaslighting are silent destroyers of self-esteem. While emotional neglect feels like being unseen or unheard, gaslighting makes you question your reality.

According to Dictionary.com, gaslighting means “manipulating someone into doubting their sanity or perceptions.”

Many people who have been emotionally neglected in relationships, families, or workplaces describe feeling “invisible.” Over time, this lack of validation erodes your sense of worth.

Research from Google Search and Psychology Today shows that victims of gaslighting often experience:

  • Low self-confidence and decision paralysis
  • Over-apologizing or self-blame
  • Fear of confrontation or rejection
  • Chronic anxiety and emotional exhaustion

When you’ve been gaslighted or emotionally neglected, the damage isn’t always visible — it lives in your beliefs. You may think:

  • “Maybe I’m overreacting.”
  • “I should’ve tried harder.”
  • “I can’t trust my own feelings.”

But here’s the truth: your emotions are valid. Neglect or manipulation rewires your emotional compass, making you rely on others for validation. Healing begins by recognizing these internal lies.

As Google AI resources suggest, journaling your experiences helps you reconnect with suppressed emotions and reclaim inner clarity.

Step 1: Rebuild Inner Awareness
Begin with mindfulness — spend 10 minutes each day noticing your thoughts without judgment. Apps like Calm or Headspace can help train your mind to separate truth from fear.

Step 2: Reframe Negative Self-Talk
Every time you hear that inner critic say “I’m not good enough,” counter it with: “I am learning, and that’s enough.”

Step 3: Reconnect with Safe People
Healing rarely happens in isolation. Join supportive communities — online forums or friends who validate your growth. Visit the Ogie Library Stories Section for motivational stories of resilience.

In my 30-day recovery journey, I made a promise to treat myself like a friend — not an enemy. I practiced three rituals daily:

  • Writing one truth I’ve learned from pain (“It’s not my fault”).
  • Practicing two minutes of deep breathing before sleep.
  • Speaking affirmations like “I am safe now” and “My feelings matter.”

By day 15, I noticed something incredible — my anxiety lessened, and I stopped explaining myself excessively. By day 30, I started making decisions without guilt.

These practices were inspired by Healthline and Verywell Mind recovery guides.

Here are practical tools to aid your recovery:

Remember: healing from gaslighting is not about proving the manipulator wrong — it’s about proving to yourself that you were always right about your worth.

Recovering self-esteem after emotional neglect or gaslighting is not a race — it’s a gentle return to truth. You deserve peace, validation, and self-trust. Don’t rush your process.

Learn to say no without apology. Celebrate small victories. Speak your truth softly but clearly — and watch your self-worth rise again.

Read more inspirational healing stories and life lessons at Edwin Ogie Library.

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